NLW, I seriously can't believe how low they go. Several months ago I received a spewing email from my STBX regarding his situation - living in a "tiny little dump," driving a 12 year old car, giving me more than half of his net pay, etc. (well, no one forced him to leave a good life) knowing that he was hiding tens of thousands of dollars and was in the process of buying a house with OW. He was also angry that we hadn't reached a settlement and blamed me for that even though he was the one who kept changing the terms - the more I gave up the more he wanted. It's all very confusing.
Like you, I've been put in a precarious financial situation because of is. Trying to keep up with the mortgage and bills has caused me many sleepless nights. It's incredibly frustrating that I have to go to court so I can receive what I'm entitled to and a lot of that will go to my attorney unless she is awarded fees.
In the end, NLW, we will have peace. We are caring for our kids and are living an honorable life. We have accepted that there is something terribly wrong with our H's. A healthy, sane person just wouldn't do what they're doing. So, back to focusing on understanding, compassion and living by the golden rule.
