Ok, I'm not trying to defend him but in his relation to me, he says that he cared for her on weekends while we were separated and that he made major renovations at the new house closer to his job for her to be handicap accessible. We would stay between house 3 days at the new place and return for the 4 day weekend in our established home that we gave back to bank. Which he did putting $25K into a house we didn't even own and only a small cape cod. Wouldn't listen to me that it wasn't a good fit. And I never felt turning the house over to the bank was the best option.
I also have to mention here that I did NOT know or realize that we weren't working on marriage and that he considered us separated. I would NEVER have stayed in the new house with him had I known there was OW or that he had plans with OW. I was skeptical but nothing was confirmed until after divorce was final. It came as a BOMB to me that ILBNILWY. Truly never expected this especially with our sitch.
However, he says I moved to Florida to spite him. When actually I moved for all the reason our D needed to recover. But that he actually thinks I moved for myself with no support group here leaving my family (parents, aunts, uncles, sister, etc.) with nothing is absurd!
He is too busy with his job to have been capable of caring for her. He planned to hire help. He goes out of town for weeks here and there. Seriously.
Anyway, how do I post my story in WAS. I really go back and forth on the topics, and I feel both are polar opposites on the track to repair/reconciliation. I would really like some feedback from WAS. Thanks.
