Yesterday morning W said she "didnt know" if she would be spending the night with OM2. I guess I got excited overthinking that maybe something positive was happening. I left the light on .........
I woke up and she wasnt at the house. A bit disappointing, I left myself too open.
I exercised and felt better- lesson re-learned
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Yes, he is solution based but when she says im not ready to end the affair and then admit to a second.......not much he can do to work on "Us"
I "THINK" she now qualifies as a MLC. I just protect my D and I
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
The last 24 hours have been a pretty wild ride........
Ive had such improvement with my credit score that I actually applied for ,and was approved, for my first "legit" credit card in 15 years (By legit I mean no annual fee, upfront charges or "secure status")- This was a BIG step for me as I want to ensure my D3 and I's financial future. Need solid credit for apartments etc
overcame a VERY scary incident involving my D3. Wife and I came together and worked very well through a stressful situation- again
Therapist told me last night she cant believe how well im doing with this so far
AND
This morning my wife said " Youve done really well sticking with your exercises every morning"
(She has no CLUE about my work with my credit score)
I am the only one I have control over!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Something I remind myself that helps me keep going......
If W does not end the affairs on her own, without any influence on my part, I will not be able to rebuild my trust in her and the greater likelihood of this happening again.
Right now my wife is in deep...........
Last night she received a call back about a apartment. I know she needs to do this, but you look at all the wasted $$$ and you just want to flap your arms like a bird and scream "WAKE UP"!
Then I remember that taking that action only punts the ball further down the road.
She will be out of the house the next three nights thank god. No more having to find ways to make sure I cant listen to her on the phone. Best of all - THREE DAYS OF DADDY AND D HANGING OUT
Before she left this morning she asks "Does this shirt go with these pants" Do I look OK? (as she is wearing ANOTHER new shirt)
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Something I remind myself that helps me keep going......
If W does not end the affairs on her own, without any influence on my part, I will not be able to rebuild my trust in her and the greater likelihood of this happening again.
So hard not to want to influence W, but you are right, she has to want to end A for it to work.
Originally Posted By: Positivespin
She will be out of the house the next three nights thank god. No more having to find ways to make sure I cant listen to her on the phone. Best of all - THREE DAYS OF DADDY AND D HANGING OUT
Have a great time with D :-)
Originally Posted By: Positivespin
Before she left this morning she asks "Does this shirt go with these pants" Do I look OK? (as she is wearing ANOTHER new shirt)
I would say absolutely, you look gorgeous! Have a great day!
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Through my journal I have learned a very important pattern in my wife....
When my wife says " I just wanted to say that you are right" It means that whatever I may be "right" about.....she isnt going to do it.
Last night she "Threatened" me twice by saying that she wont see her daughter ever again. How the F$%K do you respond to that??
Im in the big leagues boys and girls:)
My wife wants me to be fine with her taking my D3 to a mans house for a overnight. That she met a month ago and spent the night with at their second meeting - that she is having an affair on
Because I say "oh hell no" she tells me that im going out of my way to make it difficult for her to have a relationship with her daughter.
My response "There is no reason why you are unable to spend time with your daughter other then your unwillingness"
She began crying - left the room, shut the door to her guest room and called OM(which one??????who knows- who cares) and within 5 minutes all I could hear was laughter.
W. commented that she cant compete with the bond I have with our D3
DAMN RIGHT!!!!! I didnt run off
P.S. Today I hit the 50 lb lost mark
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
She told me she wasnt getting a apartment because it was to expensive and she couldnt afford it
Then she told me she was going to NY over memorial day weekend and to San Fran for a week in July to "get away"
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Not that it matters, but sounds like she may dealing with a MLC. Threatening not to see D and can't compete with your and D 's bond? Those are comments coming from someone who is really lost.
What are your plans for tonight, friend?
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
