This very line is still thrown at me to this date. "Something inside me died and how do you get something dead to live again?" W is talking about her feelings for me and therefore she believes she can never have those feelings back because they're dead.
Of course she thinks that. MWD talks about this in DR, she says if you had told your W the day she got married that the day would come that she would not want anything to do with you then she would have called you crazy. She would have been 100% POSITIVE that it would never, ever happen. Yet here you are. So now she's 100% positive she's done. But could she still change her mind? Of course, she's already done it once before.
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How do you give hope to someone that tell you this?
The hope is yours, not hers. She doesn't have hope and she doesn't want hope. She's done. Your hope is that she will change her mind, and that hope is yours for as long as you care to hold onto it.
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Perhaps the actions that you've changed? But isn't it true that if you're in a fog the changes are a little too late for a WAW?
That's why we say to give the WAS time and space. They've got to emerge from the fog themselves, you can't speed the process. In the meantime you change for yourself, and hopefully she notices the changes and learns to appreciate them.
