Could you not just ask her to feed them while you are away next time? See what happens. At the very least you will be changing something and she is unlikely to say no to your request.
I agree. Just ask and see what happens. Whenever I have to ask my H something I do the same thing. I fill the sentence with fillers (unnecessary words) like "I know I should've done this but would you... I know I could check it later but would you.." I guess I do that because I fear he might say no.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins