Cake eating remains a perspective thing... We generally use the term to indicate that someone is taking advantage of someone else. If I have a wife who likes to clean, then I am cake eating if I do not clean. Yet if I have a wife who likes to clean, who perhaps has OCD, and I interfere by cleaning. Well...
Do you feel that your W was trying to get her emotional needs met, while she continued... for all these months and years... to plan her escape...?
Do you feel that she was doing so, to intentionally hurt you?
Do you feel, by having continued to provide her with a physically and emotionally safe place to figure things out, where she continued to see your positive changes, and believe in them, that you did not get closer to your goals??
Have you read this posting from KD on T^2's thread? This and other questions he asks really give you something to think about.
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
