If she's communicating with you about these issues at all it's a plus. I think it's best to be open & upbeat about all topics & vague on the matters of divorce. Don't encourage, but acknowledge/support as much as you can saying things like 'this is a really difficult decision' or 'I know how hard this is'... but non-committal in getting it done. Think that'd work? You're keeping the communication open without leading her to D.
