Sorry I forgot to mention one more important fact.
Early on in my sitch i talked with ex W of suspected OM. He left his W around the same time W first got confused and W admitted EA. She is still adamant he is just a friend. She has mentioned that she seems him occasionally.
25hrs gave me a ticking off a while back for speaking to her (although she contacted me) and I can see why. W told me suspected OM ex W has been brewing up a storm of late saying how W has abandoned me and she is responsible for her H leaving. Apparently this has been going on for months and OM ex just will not let it lie. I have NC with this woman, have not spoken to her since the conversation early post BD.
W is getting very stressed by it all - she mentioned that it was suspected OM daughters birthday a few weeks back and she posted a message on her FB wall which was deleted. Basically the R with OM and his ex is awful and he does not see much of his kids because of it.
Should I intervene or just keep away and stay out of it? I am worried that either she will push W closer together with OM or push W deeper in the tunnel. Either W its yet another distraction I could do without!
