The wedding was this past Saturday at 2:00. To make it on time, we would need to leave by 1:00. At 12:30 my wife asked me if I wanted to attend. I responded by saying that although I appreciated the invite (although very late) I didn't feel comfortable going due to the awkwardness of our current situation. I didn't want to be invited just because she felt guilty or obligated.
She had no response other than to say that they are our friend etc.
I responded by saying that I would prefer to stay home. I then went on to tell her that I felt that it was time that she found another place to live and to let me know what she wanted in terms of custody and a settlement.
She had a stunned look on her face and simply said ok. I left the room and did not see her until the next day. She has been friendly the last 2 days since and has invited me to go out of town with her and our daughter on a dance trip. I was previoulsy not assked to come along. Not sure what this all means, but I am very comfortable with my decision and feel a huge relief in terms of stress by taking a stronger position on the status of our marriage rather than when waiting for the axe to fall based on what is convenient for my wife.
What happend either way going forward is fine with me. I feel very confident that this was the right thing to do after 3.5 years of Limbo.
