Taking a step back-a fresh start

[MrCAS]

So, you had a tryst with a woman and that was okay (guilt or not) and then you blast your W? What am I missing her?

I am also not buying into the "how can she do this?" line of thinking. Would your thinking be different if she was living there?

I think your anger is coming from somewhere else, brother. I know the scenario well having lived through it and just found my W has a new "friend". Does it bother me? You bet. Am I going to let it become a distraction and derail my progress? Not on your life.

You parked your car where it didn't belong. Your W is free to use the garage however she wants. There is nothing you can do to stop it. This is a hard thing to accept but you are letting it consume you.

You go off on her and you can kiss all your work good bye. Back to square one and four paces back for poor behavior.

Next time someone mention OM, just say "Oh? Him again? My how tongues wag". Laugh and shake your head about it and then walk away. Make sure you are laughing the "Haven't you got better things to do?" laugh. Even if you have to fake it. No one loves to spread crap if it isn't bothering someone. They just want to see the pain on your face. Don't give them the satisfaction.