I have some questions on MLC/WAS that I could use some help on please:
1. W still has a huge amount of belongings here and has made no attempt to collect them or even mention them. Clothes, DVDs etc etc. She has also left all photographs here, I don't just mean photos of our M life but photos of kids, her teenage/young photos, old photos etc etc of her family and friends. Is this normal, should I pack them up and give them to her or wait until she asks about them if ever. Or do they completely wash their hands of the past including before they met you even.
2. Re relationship discussions generally. I know the mantra is not to bring these up but how long do you leave it if ever? Does the LBS spouse ever bring the R up, not necassairy from a reconciling perspective, but more a talk about why? or does this just set you up for BD again. So I suppose I am saying should the LBS ever take the initiative with these types of discussion?
3. Should you ever ask if there is another person? I know the general view is that the focus is not on W but does anyone have the same need to know feeling, especially to enable moving on properly.
4. Is it possible you could have missed the crisis? I know this may seem a stupid Q but W does seem to be re-engaging her family/her mum a lot more. Does this occur whilst in replay still or right at the end?
5. Is it normal for MLCers not to sleep. Everytime I see W and just generally ask how shes doing she always says she struggles sleeping. I know there could be a number of reasons but it has been months now and she still appears to suffer from this.
6. W comments about missing me. I thought this unusual for an MLC perspective as I thought they couldnt wait to see the back of you. Is this common. Again, would like to know more from does she genuinely miss me or is it one of their games perspective and how I should respond?
7. I feel a bit funny asking this but is it possible my W MLC triggers one in the LBS?
