curious to your thoughts on which is more disrespectful - having a 6 month affair with your spouses friend behind thier back - or confiding in a friend about it 2 years after the fact?
They are BOTH disrespectful.
If you want to repair your marriage gman then respect your wife. Stop complaining and work with her rather than betraying her trust and humiliating her in your workplace.
Stop scorekeeping. That does NOT improve a marriage.
You can be right, or you can be happy gman. You chose.
If you chose to reconcile then DO that. Dont' reconcile and just mope and be bitter. That's not going to help anyone.
If you can't find the maturity to forgive and be happy together, then at least find the maturity to end your marriage rather than humiliating your wife in your workplace.
Pointing fingers at what SHE did three years ago, does not in any way legitimize your behavior NOW.
