Is this cake eating 13

[albamarie]

I agree. There's nothing like D to take all the pressure off a WAS.

I agree with this too. Your H is reaching out, but that doesn't mean he wants to reconcile. More likely he thinks he's accomplished his "goal" of D, so now he doesn't feel the need to remain cold/ distant.

NLW- You know me I can go straight to the source, so I asked H what does D mean, to a man who's flipped, and the above statements were dead on. He also add a man doesn't see his family as anything other than his family, and the XW looses the label that ties him, putting her in a different light.

Ah, until you try to act like "the W" ex or not and put limitations and demands on him, then your just the 8itch he can't shake. Please be very careful and attentive to his ways, it's still all about him!

I have to say you are handling everything with such grace. You have been at this for so long and I hope you and your kids can move on and heal. As soon as you said you now have an XH, I was taken aback. I feel more like a widow w/alien in my home, a D would make me feel like my air hose was finally detached from his ship and I can begin to breath on my own.

I'm sure your going to go through some different emotions over time and different issues with XH, and we will all be here to listen, and I will continue to learn from your inner strength, as my time is approaching for change!

<3 dm