Take the hits and keep moving forward.

[Fartiltre]

Hi T

Last week you wrote to me:
“Having all these thoughts running through your head can make you manic.
I think a lot us just read other peoples posts and move on, I thought I would have a go at responding to other people sitch's if I feel I can add anything to help.
It's easier to be subjective on other sitch's than your own.”

IT HELPED ME!

Try being objective! She left you, she is gone and she meets another man…
I understand your hurt but she is not to blame! IMHO!

Look at the text she wrote: ….”if we ever got back together”…
If you take this statement and the ones from the last week or so I think she is moving in your direction. At the moment you are hurting and you focus on OM. Look at the rest – look at the whole picture!
Read your own thread, remember your Rocky quote. This is a major blow to the guts but it won’t take you out, unless you let it! Get OM out of your head and get back on the horse!
With time you will know if you can live with it or not, but do not make that decision now. If you do, you will decide on basis of hurt, despair and anger. Make your decision objective as you told me!

NOW:
Go to the gym and work out. When you are done then start over! Get exhausted!
Watch Game of Thrones and then get some rest
Control your feelings and certainly keep them to yourselves for the moment!

ABOUT THE TEXT:
Please remember that I am not a vet (I am a newbie) and that you’re the one on the battlefield – not me! I would properly think very hard about answering at all if I got a text like this, but if I did I would go with something like: “I understand your sayings and the reason for them. I respect you and your opinion and it makes me happy that you are so honest with me! I hope we can talk later but timing is rather bad at the moment.”
Then I wouldn’t answer calls or texts before my head was clear again!