Now XH is back on email again tonight trying to arrange to collect the kids from schools tomorrow, first day back.

He hasn't been doing this (apart from once or twice) since November last year.
Now he seems to want to re-instate the regular daily contact.

Again, all this on the evening of his Divorce.

I feel divorced - from reality!

Even told S14 he will help him with homework tomorrow (which will mean coming into the house when he drops them home).

Do I just go with the flow and see if this leads to better things. Or do I let him know we have dropped the rope and are sick of being jerked around.

What do I want to do? Both probably, if this makes any sense.

Don't want to go back to the cake-eating that has characterised this limbo to date.
You know by now how i love to mix metaphors!

But really trying to think of what's best/most appropriate DB-wise.