Take the hits and keep moving forward.

[Fartiltre]

Hi T1000

I am not a vet but you were kind enough to give me advice when I needed it so here is my thought.

I understand why you want to communicate and talk with her - I feel the same way all the time....but think back and read your old postings from when it all started!
IMHO your text-responses are VERY pursuing and I think you will realize that, if you leave them be and read them later or tomorrow.

Question here is - as always - what do you want? Do you want her back or not? Is the OM a "dealbreaker" or not? To me it would not be and I agree with azguy. Perhaps this OM in fact could be a turning point for you! You have done so well and now you are backsliding! Only a few days ago you felt her interest!. I understand your feelings and hurt, but from an outstander and an objective point of view - she hasn’t done anything wrong! You are not together!

Forgive her and get your grip back or don’t forgive her and risk the backslide - as I see it!

Move on with DB for the moment! Read Sandi2 rules 10 times! Think straight! You can always turn her down if this is a dealbreaker for you, but don’t backslide before you are absolutely sure that this is your opinion. Think about your reactions when she dropped B! Where did they get you? What are you about to do now?

(I hope you read this as well meant and kind words – it is! I understand your feelings and needs!)

If you need to give her an answer, then just validate her feelings and let it rest there! Don’t argue!

Pulling!
Fartiltre