Hi l'em, I didn't notice if you'd indicated that you'd picked up and read "Divorce Remedy".
Also, it does sound like your H could be MLC (in crises, at least) and there are a few things that you really do want to pay attention to.
You are likely to keep snooping and watching and hoping... that maybe... you're H will figure his life out quickly. That you might be one of those extremely rare statistics where you are here for a few months to half a year and your H "wakes up" and realizes that he wants to remain M.
That would be grand and I truly wish it could be that way for you.
In the event that it is not, this journey could take at least a few years. You are truly going to drive yourself to a nervous break down if you continue to focus on your H, his work status, the OW, etc.
There is a little caveat with LBS who believe their spouses may be MLC: What if... they AREN'T?
You will often hear vets remind LBS that MLC is a long journey and what the LBS is unlikely to make any difference to speed things up and make things better and save the M.
Even so, the work is still really the same as if the LBS has a WAS. Because the sooner the LBS can recover from the initial shock and pain and begin rebuilding themselves, improving themselves and their life, and truly living a life and being a person that only a fool would leave, the better for the LBS and even if the M is not saved, it will go a long way to ensuring much better relationships or possible M in the future.
And if the LBS has a WAS, chances are it will make for a potentially faster R, if the M can be saved.
For your own well being, focus on you, your GAL, and your 180s and growth are likely to be very beneficial to you, right now.
