I have been doing a lot of pondering the postings Kitti has put up from Brian Tracy.
There is a line that has hit me like a ton of bricks....
What you believe... WITH CONVICTION...becomes your reality.
So my thoughts are simular to what you are thinking. I doubt what I am seeing from my H. If I think about the above line, and I am doubting, I cannot believe with conviction and therefore my subconcious if effected and that in turn makes my gestures, my tone and my words reserved. I may not notice it, but I bet my H does. It may not even be a concious thought for him either, but I bet he knows I am being that way.
I just wonder what effect would be different if I TRULY let it all go and HAD FAITH and BELIEVED?
Just my rambling thoughts today. Sorry I don't have an answer for your questions.... can only let you know I'm having simular feelings.