Beginning and end of a bright green morning

[optimist]

Well, we did talk a bit last night... though it was a rather anticlimactic conversation.

We were having dinner and watching the news and I asked him what had he wanted us to discuss when he came back. He answered: "Well, exactly that. That I am home and we will work things out." I said nothing.

A bit later he added: "I really appreciate you giving me that time for me to sort things out and make my decision. I needed to decide whether I loved you or not and whether I wanted to go back for you or for our D. And I am sure it was also a good thing for you." I said: "Not exactly. It was a terrible experience for D and I had no time to do anything but be there for her. You cannot imagine how bad she was." H: "Yes, it was terrible for me not to call you. When you left me at the airport it was all I could do not to run after you two and the car." I remained silent.

H: "When I was away I realized I really loved you and missed you, not only D. I could not wait to come home." Me: "So, when you came home in August, you did not know if you loved me?" H: "Well, I loved you but I did not know whether I wanted to come back because of you or because of how bad you felt."

Me: "And what are you going to do?" H: "I am going to close the office. I have found some other things to work in and I think that in 2 weeks, I will be alone in the office. I do not even want to change the accounts. I will just close them and open new ones in a different bank."

Me: "And what are you going to do with the house?" H (who up to now had no idea I knew about the house): "I bought it as an investment. I am talking to some people who want to rent it for a bussiness." Me: "Why did you not tell me that you were buying it?" H: "You were in no shape to tell you" I managed not to tell him what a crappy excuse that was.

Me: "Do you realize that if you do not include me in your life and your bussiness decisions this is not going to work? That unless we get involved in each other's stuff we are going to end back in the same sh*tty sitch?" H: silence. We keep snuggling and watching TV... I do not bring anything else up... for now.

The problem guys is that I have heard all that before: the "ILY, not our D. I am back for you, not for her"; the "they'll be gone in 2 weeks"; the "I will close the office" and the "Do not worry, everything will be OK"

Any thoughts?