On the GAL, I have been spending time with.friends just having fun. But my priority right now is turning my business around.

Gal is to make you feel good about yourself and take youitcgr mind off your sitch. But then my mind is not on my sitch anymorw much, its on the favt that my daughter is getting older and her expenses are going up.

My mind is on my debts, my dreams, my aspirations. I couldnt give a rats ass about friends right.now. My free time is spent working on my website, promoting my business,etc.

I have family who have invested in my business. I cant let them down or let my daughter down. She has to have a better life than I did, and that'd gking to be a tough order.... But im up for the task.

Somehow I feel I have gotten the drive back that I used to gave. I used to be so driven, so ambitious, never cared about missing out on something. I wanted to succeeed. Its not about money, its about the feeling of success. I havw been there as a 25 year old but in the last few years the series of business losses broke me. Im back now!

The funny thing is, when it was going well, I listened to my wife by backing away from working too much. She said life is short and we,need to enjoy it. My parents and brother (who now owns a multi million dollar business witg almost 100 employees) warned me. They said work hard now in your 20s and 30s so you can cut back in your 40s and enjoy the fruits of your labor.

I didnt listen, and chose my wifes view. Now she blames me for our standard of living not being what it should have been and blames it on me not listening to her about small business things, and not om the fact that I stsrted leavimg my employees to run my business.

In the,meantime,my brothe is now 38 and has a net worth of several million and can retire.soon if he wants. And his wife loves and reapects his ambition and dedication to providing a good future for his kids.

I dont know. It may arrogance, it may be ambition and high seld regard. But I think we all have to be true to ourselves and what we want out of lufe. And the by product of high ambition and success, while balncing familt and fun time of course, is respect and admiration from your wife.

Women are progeammed to seek a spouse who can providw for theur off spring. I think that is innate and underestimated.

Any views? try not to attack me guys I am only beimg honest and true to myself and what my life goals have always been.


Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017