X demands full custody because I'm engaged, Part 2

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I don't believe X will accept the arrangement I mentioned.

So, I had my "date" with DS and DD on what by court order was my time with them Friday night. A change in DS's sports activities rested an opportunity for me to invite him to go fishing yesterday. He turned and asked X, "can I?", to which she responded, "yes" (I didn't ask her, he did). We went, had a great time, caught a few and even raced against an approaching thunderstorm to paddle our canoe off the lake.

DS wanted to cook the fish we caught for supper. I told him I wanted him to spend the night with me as it was late. He said I would need to ask X. At this point I couldn't help but ask, "Why, does OMH ask her permission before he does anything?" DS chuckled and responded, "no." DSthen called X on his phone and told her he wanted to stay with me to eat the fish we caught and watch a movie. She gave him "permission" and asked to speak to me saying, "I can't compete with a fish fry and a blu ray" and informing me she was shopping with DD for items for her school trip she left on this morning.

This situation isn't good in many ways. X has empowered herself to call the shots in the eyes of the kids and the kids are being taught they have great impact in what should be adult and court decisions (r.e. DD's recent claim she gets to "decide" where she lives).

It's also taking a major toll on the relationship between myself and fiancé. Following the incident at C's office, fiancé told a me, "My children come first (as her concern)." Ironically X told me the same thing this past week in reference to DS and DD. I understand this to a large degree as fiancé is the only person her three children have looking out for them (their father has chosen to not be involved in their lives). She has said at times she will not allow her children to be brought into court and put through the ordeal that could occur. Fiance's comment has caused me to consider where I rank my children in importance. Last night fiance texted we would be "Mr and Mrs" in just three weeks in keepinf with recent comments that what X has done will not deter her from living her life. I did not respond.

I now have much more to decide.

I will start a new thread.