Alrighty then fellow DBers!! Been a busy week in this small midwestern town - for this small midwestern woman at any rate.
H related episodes that stuck in my skull.
4/22 Mon @ a track meet. I thought H said something to me.
MizJay "Sorry, what was that?"
H "Quiet! I'm trying to hear what they're saying! ("they" would be the 2 moms in front of us, discussing track records set 27 years ago) I'm trying to get more involved, which is what you should be doing."
4/23 Tue
MizJay "H, I know you were planning to go to the casino this weekend, but it is prom weekend and the "AfterProm" parents are looking for volunteers to help out. I am signed up, but can't stay until 4am because I work @ fastfoodland Sunday morning. It would be a great way for you to get involved."
H "Not going to happen. I am already committed to going gambling this weekend."
4/24 Wed
H "My S25 (from 2nd M) is moving and wants to borrow $200. Pull that out of the bank for me."
MizJay "Why don't you just loan from your gambling $? After all, it is already the right currency..."
H "What? Can't we afford to give S25 $200?"
MizJay "Well, we are a little short this month, what with you spending 2 weeks @ your folks."
H "Make it work. My gambling bank roll is not to be touched for anything but gambling!!"
4/26 Fri
H text is misunderstood by MizJay.
MizJay responds, "What? They wouldn't let you into Canada?! OMG! What are you going to do now?"
H responds, explains that MizJay misunderstood and he is indeed safely across the border and @ the casino.
MizJay realizes H will not be home for the next 48 hours.... and feels great relief.
One of these days H.... one of these days... POW!! To the moon!!
In other news. My wonderfuljob bosses seem to like me (Actually, I believe the terms "awesome", "wonderchild", and "rocks the house" were used )
I have to figure out the college "orientation" thing, because I don't want to have to miss work for it, so not much progress there.
I did get myself a snazzy new purse which oh! brings up another wannaknockHonthehead story. While I was purse shopping a cosmetic counter lady (fascinating and somewhat frightening species) snagged me to let me know about an offer they have right now. It does happen to be for one of my fave scent lines, and Mother's Day does happen to be approaching, SO I informed the living room, in which were H and the twins. H of course used this opportunity to remind me that I am not his mother. (Really? Do tell!! Ugh!!) and then for the kicker threw in "I already take care of you." (When you read the news about the midwestern woman whose head exploded, you all will say "oh. that must have been MizJay.")
Anyway. Thank you all for stopping by
I have a busy weekend lined up here. I hope everyone finds some thread of happiness and sanity for themselves.
Cheers!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
As I am up bright and early with S2 who decided that apparently sleeping in on the weekends is not for him, I figured I would check out the boards. I have been lmao at your post!!!
Honestly, there is no doubt the Mothership has control of his brain. Or what is left of his brain!
I hope you are journaling and writing all this stuff down for when you need a good laugh.
Reading your stories, I had a flashback to awhile ago when my H was mad about something (not even sure what) and yelled at me, "Talking to you is like talking to a wall!"
Me??? I'm the one that's like talking to a wall???? Fascinating perspective!
Very excited for you about going to school - I think it is going to open many doors for you
Have a great Saturday - you do rock the house!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
I realized in retrospect, I didn't throw in a couple positives about H.
1. I got a compliment. "You look nice." (Said when I was leaving for work. He didn't get this exactly right, because actually I looked beautiful lol ) This is MOST unusual for H. He is definitely NOT one to compliment. I smiled and said "Thank You" (and wondered to myself what was wrong with him, that he would say such a thing lol)
2. I asked him to bring me lunch at work AND HE DID. This one was so out of character that I nearly fell out of my chair when he agreed. LOL - and here's the funny part - just before he got to my office I got called into a meeting, so we couldn't have lunch together ROFL. The planets are conspiring against me I tell ya'
I don't see either of these as anything other than anomalies. But they are credits to H and so should be duly noted.
Most interesting text of late was received last night.
Almost choked to death at dinner. (H is still @ the casino) Never experienced that before. Tell you more when I'm home. I'm up $400.
Rather unsettling... ...
Housework and fastfoodland await.
Cheers!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
Me: Let me ask you something, do you think about what you are going to say or do you just let it fly?
He: No, I dont think at all, it just comes out.
Enough said.
Oh lawdy!!
H returned yesterday afternoon. It was a profitable trip for him, but most of his talk was re: the choking incident. Seems he was eating a beef-ka-bob when a waitress asked him how he was doing and in trying to chew and answer at the same time he managed to inhale the kabob. He had to actually force himself to throw up a little, into a napkin, to clear his windpipe. H finds this terribly embarrassing, and naturally (for H) infuriating as well. Says he got so mad about it he couldn't even do more gambling that night.
In his retelling, I could just picture his "mad as a wet hen" antics and laughed at his story. Well my laughing just bewildered H, but he laughed at it too, although he says he's still mad. Lol. He was even a little mad that I find his being mad funny... and for a second I verged on hysterics. (Picture Richard Dreyfus in What About Bob...)
Oh goodness. But I did tell him that I felt he must have been frightened, and that I was rather frightened to have gotten his text.
Such a strange creature, my H these days.
Ah well, another week is upon us. Best of luck to all who read this, hope the days bring you something good.
Cheers!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
H told me yesterday that he had been reading a football article online, and that at the end of the article it showed a link to another article entitled "Why Long Marriages End". Said he tried to click on it but the link didn't work. So then he did a google search, found it and read it. I asked him to summarize it, he just said "oh it covered a lot of different things." H went on to say (maybe a little defensively??) that "You read crap like that all the time so what's the big deal?" (I don't know how I would have made this a big deal, I didn't react emotionally or pursue the topic more than the one "what'd it say?" question)
So of course I googled the article for myself. Its by AARP. And it doesn't really say too much - touches on infidelity, longevity, changing social norms.
Items of perplexity.
1. Why H would mention the article 2. He stressed that he had to actually search for the article - that he exerted himself to read it. (If a few keystrokes vs one click actually qualifies as exertion?) 3. Defensive/competitive? about having read such a topic
I AM NOT READING ANYTHING INTO THE ABOVE!!!
Just sharing and marveling at the MLC mind
or lack there of....
Cheers
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
Since time is the one immaterial object which we cannot influence, neither speed up nor slow down, add to nor diminish it is an imponderably valuable gift. ~ Maya Angelou
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
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