Actually, I think you misunderstood me: I quit trying to do something about his health a long time ago. Probably a good 4 or 6 months ago. I told him what I felt and what my concerns were, and he said he'd take care of it but he did not.
He may have gone to an endocrinologist (he said he had), but did not go to the diet class and never followed through (and did not want me to go with him). So I did not bring up the topic any more, nor do I intend to. He is a big boy and I do not want to be his mother (actually the mother role was, disgustingly enough, filled by OW who is a good 7 or 9 years older than him).
I just mentioned all the things I had tried in the past because Ellie brought up trying to help him deal with the disease... I pick my battles... and make sure he has valid health care coverage.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
