Before H, but when you were having difficulties, how would you deal with talking to H? The reason I ask is your text could be perceived as putting pressure on him, especially if you did this before BD. On the other hand if you avoided before, this is a good change.
I like how you are doing what you think is right, with no expectations. Sounds like a good attitude.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012