This all sounds incredibly familiar JP. I heard from the OM's W that my STBXW even got very angry and argued the same kind of stuff when his wife told her back in Jan. to BTFO and not contact him again. Something about how OM was helping my W deal with her new emotions and keeping her sane. Not hardly. That security blanket your W is talking about is what's likely keeping her from really dealing with her own cr@p. Anyway, I wish you the best. Some people have to lose what they have before they can appreciate it.
Me42 W41 D10,D15 T25 M23 LYBNILWY 09/12 OEA 08/12(?)-ended? 01/13 Sep 01/13 I file 04/13 1rst D hearing 06/13 Currently in mediation