A New Me 2

[cbtdad]

JP,
You are not a lost cause!! You are going with your emotions and that is very hard to go against. I think you have taken a lot more step forward so a couple back isn't going to kill what you want.
Based on that exchange, I think if you give her a space and not an ultimatum you could have a chance. That is for you to decide though. Giving her the soar will give you the time to work on you. That's what's most important.
You know my sitch. And I am not going to tell my W when she returns from horse show to either stop talking to OM or I'm not being your friend or anything else. That would be an ultimatum. I'm simply have started to go dim and treat her like a neighbor. In the meantime I will work on me because that's where te focus will be.
I've truly come to the decision that the reason I don't know whether I want my W or not is because I don't know me right now.
JP, this is about you and you have the power. You know that. It's a tough battle, but you can come out winning the war and being the best person you can be.
Think about that, think about what that looks like. Does it include your W in the picture? When I think about the best me, the person my W is right now does not fit in that picture at all. And even though that's hurts to say, it is real when I think about it