GM,
So good to hear from you again.

I'm sorry that things are still so difficult.

I always felt that our sitches had a lot in common (my STBX's addiction is his failing business).

Reading through your update made me think our guys are still in lock-step in this process.

Re forgiveness, I know how you feel.
I think you put it really well: It's not reasonable when they continue to impact our lives in such selfish ways.

My take on this is to think in terms of 'understanding' rather than forgiveness per se.

I believe I now understand why he does what he does. I can have some compassion for him on this basis.

Hope to hear more from you.
Best, NLW