Quote: At 4 am I woke up in the middle of a nightmare. In my dream, H and I were staying at a hotel somewhere and he tells me that he is going to have dinner with a male colleague. I smell something fishy and ask him to take me with him to the dinner so I can meet this person as his wife. He mutters and says "OK, dinner at eight. I'm going for a walk" At seven, I'm all dressed up and ready to go when H tells me (again muttering: he does that when he lies) that he already went to dinner with that guy. I get mad and storm out. My marriage is over for 2 reasons: he did not include me, he lied to me again. At this point I wake up in a sweat and H is hugging me.
Opt, this dream appears to reflect nearly perfectly the fears created by the info your H shared right before you went to sleep...and was fueled by your feelings of late.
He shared that his "new employee" (a non threat) had not shown up...leaving you to wonder if OW or her daughter were still there (a perceived threat).
So in your dream this "male co-worker" may represent this unknown new non threatening worker...he is "male" in the dream to reinforce this "non threat".
But YOU are uncertain, untrusting (just as in real life) and want to SEE for yourself...is this really a nonthreat or is H covering up? (in real life the fear is he's covering for still having OW around?).
Then he BLOCKS you by sneaking around and "having dinner already"....
It's a nasty portrait of YOUR fears and concerns, Opt. (NOT in any way helped by your H's continued lack of being an "open book" when it comes to work and OW). And as in real life, the dream holds no "resolution"....
Opt's Second Dream:
Quote: This time my H was having a heart attack and I was in a panic and could not even find the aspirin, let alone the phone to call 911. Very NOT ME, btw. While I am rushing all over the place, a Russian man and woman show up to visit (I do not know them from Adam, at all this) and help me to get H to the ER. While we are waiting, the girl (really nice) explains to me that H has been courting her and she had no idea he was married but that things had not gotten anywhere and she was not even interested... She drives me back home and we are really good friends... Then I woke up but this time H was not hugging me.
Hmmm...H is having a "HEART" attack, huh? Unless your H has real life coronary problems, Opt, I think there's symbology to the "heart" being the organ that's "attacking" here!
So you panic, can't find aspirin...NOT like the waking you, you say. (For an anxious person, I'm damned good in real life emergencies myself!).
But, Opt, in the real life parallel to this "heart attack emergency" you DO feel this way at times don't you?? Like you don't know what to do (....to save your H's heart??).
The Russian couple...interesting. Foreign people...link to OW? (is she not of a different ethnicity?)...they may also represent the unknown, or unfamiliar, the new worker?
I like when dreams play with WORDS...Russian...."rushing"...sort of sound alike don't they??? Any sense of "rushin' things?"
They help you and H get to the "Emergency Room" (I think this is reflecting the sense of urgency you feel about things)...
Now THIS is interesting...this "new OW" turns out to NOT BE A THREAT at all!!! She is a friend, she's not interested in your H.
Opt, I believe that your inner wisdom, your spirit, your unconscious is trying to reassure you here. The message that OW (new/old/whatever!) is NOT a threat to you, is pretty clear.
Interesting that the two of you commisserate while your H is still in the hospital having his "heart fixed"?
Dreams follow our progress with issues, Opt. I see definite progress in just these two dreams on this theme.
Remember ...dreams can only be rightfully interpreted by the DREAMER...so take what I've written and look for the "aha! moments...the things that "click"...and any connections that might arise for you.
Any sense of "rushin' things?" 
