Struggling and need help #2

[CharlieBrown]

Mtmman, thanks. But in this case, I already talked to her last night and as I explained above, I didn't intend to involve her, but when she asked, I cracked. She was very supportive of me and what we are trying to do because FIL, while a GREAT guy in many ways, shares the stubborn "I never need to apologize" streak that their D, my W, has, and it has caused her great pain over the years.

My concern is that W and I agreed to not tell our families and I am very concerned a)she might meddle and cause more harm than good and/or b)that this would violate a big trust to W at a time we are making some progress.