PS - Today is the day I am worried about (this morning especially). If she is making contact with tattoo-guy, it will be in the next few hours.
Charlie, this is so very painful. The OW part of this sitch just about kills me, and I mean that literally.
The only way I can handle it is to DETACH.
If you're detached you don't "worry about" it.
It svcks, it hurts, its plain WRONG, but it has to be accepted. Its actually easier to deal with once you "know", so stop "wondering", and "worrying" (these things certainly won't STOP her and OM, they only eat away at you). You can absorb "My W has a relationship that is unacceptable and inappropriate" without knowing the details, without torturing yourself.
Denial is such a painful place.
Have a good day today.
Cheers
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
Denial is such a painful place. 
