I saw the odds comment on my thread and it made me laugh
I'm sure you have already thought what I'm about to say.... but here goes anyway.
Do you feel that if you make contact with XSO that its going to make a difference?
Do you feel withholding contact is going to be the deal breaker for the two of you? In that, "if only" you had contacted him there would be a reunion.
Doesn't this put a reunion entirely upon you, upon YOUR actions? What kind of a reunion would that be?
I know that in my sitch, different from yours in some key ways, I am currently dealing with the "physical" estrangement. Ahem But I am NOT mentioning this, or making a move on H because "by the powers above", if there is to be ANYTHING changed, its going to be because H makes the effort.
And you deserve a SO that "makes the effort".
And if he doesn't make the effort?
That's very sad
But IDK if its as sad as a one-sided R...
And I totally get the "sharing with strangers" notion. I feel the same way. In person, I tend to be fairly reticent. Certainly NOT the one to talk about X, Y and Z. But, I am very glad to have found this board, and these wonderful people (yourself very much included) to share the underside of this "rock". Perhaps this is part of the silver lining?
Take care of you. I think routines can be very soothing, order in the chaos. In a way, they are "freeing".
Cheers!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
But I am NOT mentioning this, or making a move on H because "by the powers above", if there is to be ANYTHING changed, its going to be because H makes the effort.
