DBing European Style, part 2

[T1000]

Make the solid agreement and put it in a joint google/icloud calendar or write it all on a calendar at the house.

On your night off just make sure your busy. I would expect her to do whatever she wants if you are home.
It is difficult to be home but not looking after the kids, your seen as home so why can't she go out.

I found that when my wife went out with friends I looked after the kids and that was that.
If I said in advance that I wanted to play a new game on a particular night I was still home so it didn't get the same attention as being out.

Obviously your not in that position right now. Nothing to stop you standing your ground, tell her your going to lie in the bath for 4 hours watching T.J. Hooker reruns on your laptop with headphones on.
Just because you choose to stay home that doesn't mean your the in-house child minder to suit her social life (Although I wouldn't say that ).

It would be better if you went out and she thought you had a life outside the house.