Take the hits and keep moving forward.

[T1000]

Hi stilllookingup,
I think what helped my situation was just before I went dim we were getting on really well. We celebrated her birthday and I got her some really good stuff for her birthday off myself and the kids, she was pleasantly surprised. Got her a cake and and banner too, she was quite moved, non her friends had shown as much effort.
Within a week she said she was dating and I went very dim. At first I was quite annoyed that I had put any effort into her birthday other than something from the kids.
In the end I think it helped, because we were good friends she really did have something to miss.

I think you and AS are correct and she did want me to ask her more about it. At the time it felt like just another situation where I open up and get walked over so I shied away from it. At the same time I think because I didn't get on my knee's and profess my love she is maybe pursuing me now.

I will ask her on Sunday about what she said and she if she want to talk about it more.


Try not to see it as playing games. See it as following the DB rules to restore your marriage.
I don't think it would help his Father going through so many marriages. He see's his father throwing away many marriages and starting again. It's bound to influence him even on a subconscious level.
I like the fact your H signs up to the charity walk as soon as he knew you were doing it. It's very hard not to speculate things.