Tonight I had to go to a meeting for an hour and had to leave D home by herself. When I came home she was on the phone with MIL, who had kept her company because she didn't like being home by herself. I felt really bad about that and she gave me the phone. MIL and I had a nice talk and she asked me what was going on. I asked what she meant and she said she knows something is wrong with W, what is it? I started to cry (unusual for me, not so unusual lately).

I told her much of what was going on and my theories on why. She is a smart woman and clearly knew. She wasn't surprised and was pleased we are in therapy. She is VERY pro-marriage and was deeply saddened to hear. She said she will be praying for us, and I know she will.

W hadn't talked to MIL and FIL yet and had told me that. I also haven't talked to my family yet. Part of the reason I didn't want to was because I felt/feel ashamed that I have failed as a husband. Also, because I wasn't so sure MIL wouldn't blindly support W. In addition, I am trying to keep the circle small because I am convinced we will get through this and I don't want there to be any "weirdness" with them later.

But, I have to say, MIL totally got it and I felt better that she knows. Also, she agreed to not say anything to FIL and "agreed that we didn't talk" and she wouldn't say anything to W. She will be able to push W and get information on her own, I am convinced. My plan is to follow that idea and not say anything to W. I hope I am right as this would breach a major trust at a time when we have had a good couple weeks.

Thoughts?

Me; 42, W; 43
M; 16 yrs
S12, D9

3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure"
5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"