Crazy little thing called MLC

[Raine]

AJ, I like what you said, "You have no reason to run away and many to stand your ground." I'm going to think of that every time I don't want to deal with it anymore. I don't need to deal with it. It can sit on the back burner. I just need to stop thinking about it. As frustrated as I am about things in their current state, they are so much better than it was at BD or even at separation. He is way more involved with the kids and making a schedule to be with them. He is doing things for me around the house without even being asked, and I'm always sure to notice and thank him for it. He talks to me a lot, like I'm his best friend, well, because I am his best friend. I just need to get back to going with the flow and zero expectations and letting him bake.

He does understand that things are not right with him, but right now he is also resigned to feel powerless to fix anything, so don't bother trying. It's like he is accepting that this is where he is, he has caused it, and there is no way back, so just live with the fact that you're going to be depressed and miserable.

The kids are number one priority, always. I'm amazed at how well they are doing, even adjusting back to him being gone again.

That's hard to think that even now in your sitch your ex is still so angry. I guess that's one thing that is good for me right now is that H and I get along well enough that we can still do family things for the kids. Even if we do get D, it wouldn't be awkward to have him at family functions or sit together at ball games.