A New Beginning - after 2 years...

[25yearsmlc]

KG

((( )))

BF said it succinctly with "I'm not the first woman to have to do this."

As a L, I met some women who had followed their military husbands around the world, only to be left for an OW and one in particular comes to mind.

She asked me which bank to ask for money from (her h was overseas with OW, btw) b/c she had "never written a check" in 30 years of marriage. Some women over 50 really do end up in dire straits. Living with their kids if they can...

Some laws have changed, but I'm telling you, as hard as your sitch is, and IT IS DAMN HARD, I'm so grateful your skills are marketable and your confidence in that area must be higher now...

As for the shaming of your h, I only partly agree with Accuray. Maybe it wasn't so needed however,

Your h SAID he DID NOT understand why you feel hurt...wth? Wow...I doubt i could have contained myself with that line...

That's just weird as he!! to me.

Keep going as you are. Your children WILL get the picture, in time. Not saying they'll blame him but they'll honor and know your wishes are not what you are living with.

And in time, your work hours won't get worse. I think you'll balance things out in time. And you will get help as your GAL activities at work bring you in contact with more people who might help you out,

and someday, when you are ready, you'll meet OM perhaps and that will assist you in some practical ways.

OR, your h will have an awakening.

I'm not sure why you are still protecting him from his family knowing how bad things are financially. I don't see the upside. I see you hating to be the messenger, but this is nuts.

Why not admit being "confused & concerned" as to how he can take OW to Thailand AND yet say there's no money for rent for his children...

wth?????

I imagine he might THINK about being a stay at home dad, and then have OW in his life (which would probably make me nuts.)

After all, He seems to think you've been home "on vacation" with THREE kids under the age of 5...

If he stayed unemployed, and then took money from you, would you THEN tell his family the sitch? Wouldn't it be too late then?

Nevertheless, i agree with you that he's oddly calm about the situation...

zero panic? Or is his "guilt," the stress? I don't know. I think he has a plan.

But you do what you gotta do - and we're all here rooting for you.