So I am happy w/my choice, but my happiness comes w/guilt. About 3x a yr my H has work that requires my help and as the ''good wife'' I was right by his side. Today he said, can I come by work tonight. I quickly and half heartedly said, any other time you don't want to spend time w/me.

Needless to say I didn't go help, and I feel good for standing up for myself and not be his doormat, but there is this damn human part of me that feel's bad. That part of me knows he really needs me, but the best part of me says, too bad! It's time you ''don't'' feel the L.

NEro - if H likes to spend time w/mom let him. He is getting something privately from her or something out of doing for her. Either way she benefits an he's outa your face. If she get worse you know he will be a great help and I am sure you can use that. He may even feel a guilt being so nice to her and then how could he not be nice to you.

Tonight it is me and the dog again, Fri's are hard there always alone. But I did walk and talk w/a neighbor, shopped, and did my hair smile peace to you all tonight!

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!