azguy, yes she has actually moved out...the night she dropped the bomb in fact. I also see our current communications as good signs...I know I need to be patient and let her work things out...I just need some better tools for working through the dark periods.
I feel like LRT may be the wrong thing to do, but as she's moved out, and there is little (albeit positive) communication between us, I just don't see what else I can do. I'm trying to find that elusive middle ground, where I engage more with her without pressuring her...It's tough, but I'll figure it out...especially with help from everyone here. The forums here are becoming a very positive and helpful part of this whole otherwise cr*ppy experience.
