And your right.. I do have a tendency to want to help people, It's something that's engrained in me!!.. At the age of 13 I was responsible for looking after my 2 younger brothers whilst my dad worked shift work. I would cook, clean, do the housework washing, ironing ect..
That above, could possibly point to current behaviours, the result of having alcoholic parent(s). That does not mean you do not enjoy helping people and something you would otherwise do, just that as you said... you have a tendency to put yourself second. Everyone else' happiness and comfort is more important than your own or spoken in a way that may ring more true for you, their happiness and comfort, at your expense.
Great job on working on your weight goal!
It sounds like your H has quite a blended family. His own step children, plus his D19. Are you his third W?
Just keep working on yourself, your GAL, your PMA. Keep the road home paved and smooth, which will go a long way towards helping with R, if the M is saved. Also, keep your R with the in-laws outside of your H. While you may get dragged into comm with in-laws regarding H, try to refrain from offering or initiating. As with him, listen and validate and then move on to a different topic. Their R with him is strictly that and it is not your job to influence or sway or otherwise interfere with their opinion or R with him.
