I'm right smack in the middle of some similar stuff so I'm going to just pass on what I've been told...
Originally Posted By: Grizz
It amazes me how matter of fact she is when discussing the kids. She shows no emotion at all. This will absolutely kill my 8 year old especially. It breaks my heart to know what they are going to go through.
Kids are more resilient than you think they are...as long as they have someone stable to grab on to during the storm. You have to be the rock. You won't agree with everything your W does, or how she acts with kids but unless they're in danger you can't be papa bear all the time. What you HAVE to do is be there for them whenever they need it. You also HAVE to show them you are strong and stable and no matter what happens in life they have to know that they can count on you.
Originally Posted By: Grizz
She frustrates me to the end of the earth!
You're letting her. She (hopefully) isn't doing anything to hurt you or the kids on purpose, she's doing what she feels is best for her right now. You have to figure out a way to remove yourself from this and protect your kids from expectations that could cause them hurt.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
