I let it go this morning. I asked if she could tell me right away that the issue is dropped. There is quite a long history in my sitch you don't know especially around my W and hormones. It has been very hard on me in many ways. I don't believe what I said was controlling or all that bad. She does and won't listen to my point a view even after I validated her. When I try to explain myself in any manner she states I'm trying to manipulate her. Yes I now have to try to detach from the sitch. I've been getting offline support through my EE folks. WFM this why I always say DB is lifetime approach. I thought I was in piecing and now i'm thinking I was in the doorway to piecing and never made it in. My W won't do counseling and she uses me to blame her emotions on. In the grand scheme of things the statements I said werent terrible "I will be down the vacation house with the kids.. " I guess it was my tone and how it made her felt. Smothered. So I validated that and told her that wasn't my intention.
I have a terrible time detaching. So for now I'm trying to schedule some GAL efforts outside of coaching my S's team etc.
