Wow. Why would you give a rat's patootie what the othre people were thinking and giving it more weight than that of your W's? Really?
In my own ongoing S, I have distanced myself from people that do not share the same level of enthusiasm that I have for making a R with my W. I only seek counsel from those people that have demonstrated good marital skills themselves? Why would I look for advice from a three time loser (yes, I have a "friend" that fits the bill and had tried to tell me what to do) who's answer to a failing marriage is a visit to the lawyer and "give it to her good"? I DON'T!
I am also very careful of what family members I discuss this with. I have already told my maternal parental unit that it is none of her business and not a topic that is open for discussion. Yeah, I have no problem telling people to back off. They know what I want them to know which is not really a whole lot.
I may not like my W a whole lot right now but I see no reason to drag her through the muck and mire. Yup. Learning from other people's pain... not to mention some of my own.
Wish you the best, brother. I hope your future holds nothing but goodness for you.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
