I did my best DBing in the last several days and was rewarded handsomely. My venting here helped to put me in a more stable state of mind. On friday I simply asked how long she was going to be "cool". Ofcourse the immediate response wasn't very good but it did stop te "ice queen" act. Several strange things happened to us in the last couple days that were evidence of some "extra" help. Little signs and situations that were not of this earth. The result was both of us being positive and the upward spiral starting. Positive actions equalled positive responses kind of like some crazy psych experiment. The bottom line is that what kml said about downward spirals was right. We were in one and made a joint decision to turn it around.
Why does it always take huge conflict to straighten us out? That part really puzzles me. Why can't we be more positive towards each other all the time? Must be human nature to periodically try to self destruct. I am hoping to get some good info from the MC this week. I think we both are in a better frame of mind to "hear" things this time.
