Thank you for your feedback, I will know Monday night when she comes home and nothing I can do until then. The positives of this weekend are many. Nothing wrong with a girl's weekend and she is seeing several really good friends, all of which I know well. One of the couples she may see, the guy was my college roommate and one of my best friends, even though I don't get to see him often with the distance. Hopefully these people all reinforce the strength of "us" and keep her grounded. My only concern is that I strongly suspect tomorrow morning she is going to take a fitness class from tattoo-guy even though she told me she is going jogging (one of his scheduled classes on his website is running, so it wouldn't surprise me if in her mind she was being honest with me). If I hadn't seen him as a friend on her FB page and dug into it, I wouldn't be all that concerned at all. Plus, as I mentioned, seeing her like that tatted-women page is a new wrinkle. I totally get what you are both saying though, need to let her spread her wings a bit (not historically my strength and I am trying)...
I was overly harsh calling her a B last night. Poker night also includes many beers and I was surprised to see this post at 1:30 AM. Honestly, didn't remember doing it. She could have been more friendly, but also probably was trying to stay out our way. She helped me get ready, even though I told her I would do everything. I joked with her that I would have not let her, but after learning in therapy that "acts of service" are her way of expressing love, I was happy about it. And she laughed, which was great.
As far as this weekend, it is going to be tough. I am going to not text her today unless I have to. Tomorrow I will respond, but otherwise just text game scores at D's tournament. I put a light-hearted Mickey Mouse (we love Disney) card in her car this morning and just said "I hope you have a wonderful and fun time in XYZ City this weekend and can't wait to hear about it Monday night when you get back (hopefully out back after it warms up!) Love, H" She sent me a nice thank you email at work and we have had some fun emails back and forth.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
