I hear what you are saying but don't think that is the problem. When I am hurt and stressed I do have the feeling of not wanting to do anything, but that usually fades quickly. It is the intense stress and frustration that causes me to be irritable. I try very hard to keep stress out of my life because I have a limit of what I can handle.
Help me with this thought I have. I guess I expect my W to be a reliever of my stress not a contributor. For so many years she has done far more to contribute than to relieve and that has made me very resentful. I began to see her the same as a difficult client or problem employee. She is supposed to be on my team not fighting against me. That is how I felt. I guess I even felt a little betrayed by it. She has financially undermined me so many times and that was my biggest issue. I can't write anymore about this stuff. I have rehashed it so many times and justified why I am upset that it is pointless. The bottom line is that I don't respect her and am very angry at her. She has effectively pushed me away. I want to handle our issues better but I don't know how. Now that the MC isn't addresing "our" issues I truly feel trapped. I promised myself that my boys would be raised at home with their mom and dad. My option is to continue on this path of frustration or give up my promise. My W now has the attitude of see I told you it was all your fault. She is back on her high-horse and does no wrong. I am in for a very long and difficult path. This probably sounds like pointless rambling to all but I don't feel teribly eloquent right now. I am sure the MC would recommend that I "find my happy place", "take some Troy time", "take slow deep breaths", "count to ten", or "exercise". I have been through this stress management stuff before, can you tell?
