Okay T-bone - I understand your concerns. But just let me plant one little seed here. My H was especially irritated and angry BECAUSE he was suffering from clinical depression. Now, he would never have admitted it at the time. It wasn't until he had his affair and then almost a nervous breakdown when the affair came to light, and became suicidal, that he went to a therapist and got put on Prozac. It made a huge, enormous change.
He went off it after a few weeks, because we had reconciled and things were going well and he figured he didn't need it. Within 2-3 months he was horribly depressed again, and this time he could see it wasn't due to anything going wrong with us. He went back on the Prozac and has since said that he can't believe how many years he suffered that he didn't have to, all because of undiagnosed depression.
Now, I'm not saying that's what you have - just encouraging you to consider the possibility. In men especially, it can manifest as irritability and anger rather than tearfulness and sadness.
And even if that's NOT your problem - consider that, your job in therapy is to work on YOU. My H took me into MC with the expectation that the MC was going to FIX me - a very bad start. Don't do that to your W. Set a really good example by working on your stuff.
Also - if W is willing to go to MC with you - would she be willing to listen to Michelle's KLA tapes with you? Could be more productive than therapy.
