Chiming on your previous question and what AS and KG said about OP....I fluctuate between the two viewpoints. Sometimes I am thinking along the lines of KG, that two people from failed M's will work harder to keep their new R alive. Although I wonder how they have had time to heal themselves and work through their own issues when they have jumped from one M, that actually still exists, into a serious R with OP.
Then again, it screams that the new R is a cover up for all of what really needs done. That the new R/affair is really a band aid...an external source making everything feel right. Like AS says...
I wonder about this a lot. Maybe H and OW have worked together to heal each other? Maybe they have been digging deep and and working hard and have been supporting each other through it? Maybe its real.
Then again, from what I have read, learned and observed, to ME it doesn't seem that way. But I only get glimpses of H now, and what he shows me is very limited and superficial.
So...back to the basics...its about us. Our growth for ourselves. Its taken me years and its only very very recently have I begun to imagine what it is I really want in a M and a partner. Whether it is H or not. Until that time comes though, when I am ready to bring someone back into my life, I continue on my path. Its all we can do.
Focus on what matters to you. And do what you need to do to enhance the goodness, and light in your life.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
