I just got back from a MC who had helped me a lot in the past but for the first time my W went along for what I thought was going to be joint therapy. A lot of good information came out. My W feels like she is never good enough and I feel like my needs are never acknowledged. I stressed that the issue here isn't just the "desire" issue it is the disregarding my needs issue. I was pretty happy until right at the end when the MC asked if I wanted to come back next week to talk about "stress and anger management". The MC then asked my W if she would attend also. WTF!!! My W did mention my "rages" as she calls them several times but I though we had specified to the MC that it isn't rage but a mood I get in. I am stunned and amazed. A friend of mine said he got caught up in the same sort of quandry when he went in with his XW.
I thought we were discussing communication and relating issues not my stress. If we are going to go there, how about her low self-esteem, deceit, and selfishness. You have to be kidding me! It didn't even hit me until later so I have since put a call into the MC about the "direction" of our discussions. If this is going to be all about my "issues" I am done with this MC for good. That is not in any way, shape, or form what this is all about. This is supposed to be about a couple who is trying to relate better to their S. My friend warned me and I didn't listen. I just wanted a mediator to helps us discuss things in a more productive fashion. I will update later but she better call me back so I can find out what is going on. This feels like a "Twilight Zone" episode and I don't like it one bit.
