I was thinking about my problem with this myself a lot the past couple of days. I'm sad, often and deeply, but I'm starting to...run out of tears.
This implies that you've been crying a lot up to this point, if that's the case then I think you're handling it fine. What Bug is talking about is something that's addressed in the book "The Happiness Trap" and that is that we should not fight or suppress emotions, but should let them happen. If we try and suppress them they just build up inside and come out in bigger, uglier ways. But if we let them happen, we process them and recover faster. As Bug says (and the book too), emotions are not "good" or "bad", that's just labels that society has put on them. All emotions are part of us and we should welcome them all. So, as long as you're not trying to push your emotions aside you're doing fine. Don't look at crying as a litmus test for how well you're dealing with emotions because sometimes crying is part of it and sometimes it's not.
Regarding the crying, it is normal and healthy, but don't do it in front of your W or the kids. Keep it private. I used to cry in the car all the way home from work, then get home, go in my bedroom, lock the door and collapse on the floor crying. Then I'd gather myself, put a smile on my face and go out to engage the kids. That went on for weeks. But I think it brought the healing on much faster, I bounced back really fast after I worked through all of that.
