What you said hit home with me. I do tend to be critical, a "fixer", and "overly helpful" if you know what I mean. Intentions are good but it never, okay, seldom is perceived positively. I am an advisor by profession to people aged 25 to 85 and they have no problem taking my advice. It just doesn't work that way at home. My W also feels that nothing she does is good enough and seems to have developed a complex about it. No comments I make are seen as constructive, only destructive. I have changed the way I address her in these matters and that has helped, sometimes. I do compliment her on so many things she does but that gets nullified at the first critique. The latest request was quite simple, I thought. Please throw a little more attention my way like in the old days. Date nights are well and good but that shouldn't have to be a prerequisite. Maybe the fact that I am a HD male completely precludes me from understanding the LD female.
So tell me, how does a fella go about getting a response other than, "I am already doing all I can" or "deal with it" or "that's your problem". You didn't let me in on that little secret in your reply. By the way, I kick @$$ on housework and grocery shop like a fiend. If I have a shirt that is missing a button, I take care of it myself. We had a nanny and that didn't work either.
I scheduled a MC session tomorrow to resolve our "issues". She was really good for me and I am anxious to see her.
